Catherine Desmarais, Certified Genealogist

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A heart-filling, time-traveling day in Ireland

Monday, November 12th, 2012

I’ve been home from Ireland for a few weeks, but am just now getting my feet back under me. I had hoped to post to my blog during my trip, but I found myself falling exhausted into bed each night instead. Every day was thrilling and overwhelming. I did take lots of photos, and over the next few weeks I plan to write about some of the research repositories where I worked. But there is one particular story that wants to be told first.

Islandmore cowsThe day that stands out most in my mind was the day that my new-found Irish cousins, Ann and her brother Peter, took my husband and I out to Moycullen, a parish in County Galway, northwest of Galway City. My great-grandmother’s brother, Stephen Burke, married a Moycullen girl named Margaret Barrett. Margaret’s younger brother was Ann’s great-grandfather, Nicholas Barrett. That Ann and I found each other and wove the wandering threads of our families back together is a miracle that Internet communication made possible, but that’s another story.

Margaret and Nicholas grew up in a cluster of cottages that made up the Townland of Islandmore. It was an exquisite day when we set off to find this place. In a land of soft days filled with misty rain, this day was crystalline clear and warm, under a dazzling blue sky. Ann stopped the car along the side of a vine-covered stone wall. We pulled aside the vegetation that had overgrown the engraving in the stone that told us we had come home to Islandmore.

Islandmore owner's house

Narrow lane in Islandmore

 

Ann drove down a dirt lane just wide enough for two tire tracks, and pulled up to a small farm house.

 

The owner graciously led us back, climbing through piles of hay bales, and pointed out the ruins of the original stone cottages. The thatched roofs were long gone, only scraps of corrugated tin that replaced them remained. Some of the stone had been replaced by cement blocks during the years that the structures had been used as barns and outbuildings. Vines and bushes had been hard at work reclaiming the former homes, but parts of the walls survived.

Barrett House ruins

WindowWe pulled the branches aside, ducked our heads under the low doorway, and crossed the threshold into what the elderly property owner pointed out as being the former Barrett cottage.

 

 

 

 

 

 

The vines and discarded remnants of more recent days vanished in my mind’s eye.1

House as I imagined it

Instead, my could see the kitchen in the center of the house, Margaret and her mother busily cutting potatoes and stirring soup. I imagined my great-granduncle Stephen arriving at the door, a blushing 20 year old, come to court Margaret.

Inside house as I imagined it

Ladder over stone wall

Like they must have done so many years ago, we left the house to walk the land together. We climbed a narrow ladder over a waist-high stone wall into the open fields. We eventually realized that the seemingly random stone walls formed a huge circle, apparently a place to bring the cows in at night, or to keep them from wandering by day.

Cousins hiking Barrett land

We hiked down to where the property ended as it met Ross Lake. It was wild and unspoiled, without signs of human progress. The cows in the distant fields observed us. Yet, it was not desolate. It was full of remembered ancient laughter, voices calling out and answering, families beginning, and families growing old.

While hiking we picked wild blackberries, perhaps from the same bushes as Margaret and Stephen ate from during their courting walks. I thought about the possibility that during the famine those blackberry bushes, and the fish in the lake, helped sustain Margaret and Nicholas and their siblings, then just small children. 

Ross Lake

The lake was beautiful beyond description. The water lapped at the stones on the beach as it had done for centuries, boring holes in the soft limestone before Margaret and Stephen were there, and long after we will be gone.

There was a memory cairn by the water’s edge, built by someone who also came to this place to remember. I climbed out to it and  balanced another stone on top, making it mine as well.

This day was life-altering, heart-filling, and wild.  I had studied the church register, valuation records, and maps of Moycullen. But as of that day, Moycullen is no longer a place on paper. It’s a place in my memory, in my life, in my heart. I met them there.

 

 


  1. The photos of the outside an inside of a typical Irish cottage illustrate what I imagined the Barrett house might have been like. The photos were taken by my son-in-law, Benjamin Wisehart, at the reconstructed historical village at Bunratty Castle.

Never Forget – Memorial Day 2012

Monday, May 28th, 2012
Gravestone of Hugo C. Becker 1899-1960

Visiting my father's grave this spring.

I wasn’t sure what to write about today. I have a broken wrist and was tempted to use that as an excuse not to post. But it’s Memorial Day, and I’ve been thinking about those who served our country, past and present.

I always think about my great-grandfather, Joshua Bair, who served three Civil War enlistments, the longest in Co. L of the 2nd Pennsylvania Heavy Artillery. He survived Andersonville Prison, and his fortitude is a constant inspiration in my life. His two brothers, John Bair and Robert Bair, also served. Robert didn’t come home. He was only a teenager, and no doubt scared and homesick, when he died of starvation as a prisoner of war in Salisbury, North Carolina. His sacrifice had been lost to our family’s collective memory until I began researching my family history. He won’t be forgotten again.

I also think of my sister’s father, George E. McFall, who died during WWII. He was on the J.W. McAndrew Troop ship in a convoy heading to France when the hold where he was sleeping was hit by the French Aircraft Carrier Bearn. The Bearn had engine trouble and swerved off course. In that moment, my mother’s and sister’s lives were changed forever. He won’t be forgotten.

This year I am also remembering “my soldiers” – the men who are missing from the Korean War whose families I have researched. I work to locate the next-of-kin and DNA family reference sample donors as a very small piece of JPAC‘s efforts to repatriate missing soldiers. As I have pieced together their family trees, my heart aches that they couldn’t have lived to attend their mother’s funeral, or meet the sibling or niece or nephew born after they were gone. They made the ultimate sacrifice and their families never had the small comfort and closure of a funeral. I hope that my research can help bring a measure of that closure to their families now, and they won’t be forgotten.

Finally, today I am also remembering my Dad, Cpl. Hugo C. Becker. He served in the 879 Aero Squadron near the end of WWI. Thankfully the war ended before he was sent overseas. This spring I visited his New Jersey grave for the first time since I was a child. Today I posted a flag on his memorial page on FindaGrave. Thank you for your service, Dad. I haven’t forgotten.

Who will you never forget?

 

How Fortunate I Am on Mother’s Day

Sunday, May 13th, 2012

I feel blessed this Mother’s Day.

For the first time this Mother’s Day, we have three generations of mothers to celebrate. My mother is 94 years old, and each additional Mother’s Day I have with her is a special blessing. This year my daughter became a mother, and we celebrated her first Mother’s Day with my gorgeous red-headed granddaughter. My sister drove up from out of state, and our family spent a lot of quality time together this weekend. That is the best blessing of all. If one of us had remembered to take a picture, I would post it here. We’ll just have to save the memories.

Happy Mother’s Day to all!

 

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